Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can feel loaded. If you’re in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can come with some high expectations of romance and wanting to feel special. If you’re single, it can kick up some feelings of loneliness or longing. Whatever your relationship status is, know that your feelings about Valentine’s Day are valid.
The term “red flag” has become somewhat of a buzzword these days. How many times has a friend told you that something the person you’re dating has done is a “red flag?” While there are certainly real concerns that warrant such a description, without proper discernment, people can start to become overly reactive to otherwise normal concerns in the course of a relationship. So that leads us to the question, what actually is a relationship red flag?
It can be difficult to show up in a healthy, positive way in relationships when you’ve had primarily negative relational experiences. As I often talk about, our experiences (fortunately or unfortunately) shape us. A pattern that comes up often in my work as a therapist is codependency. Maybe you’ve heard of this concept, maybe not. Either way, we’re getting into it!