The holidays can be a really difficult time for those recovering from an eating disorder or struggling in their relationship with food and body image. If this sounds like you, I want you to know that you are not alone.
It can be difficult to show up in a healthy, positive way in relationships when you’ve had primarily negative relational experiences. As I often talk about, our experiences (fortunately or unfortunately) shape us. A pattern that comes up often in my work as a therapist is codependency. Maybe you’ve heard of this concept, maybe not. Either way, we’re getting into it!
We have a lot of unlearning to do as a society to confront weight stigma and fatphobia, and to address the systems that contribute. As a HAES-aligned eating disorder therapist, I believe one of the ways we have to do this is taking a look at how Body Mass Index (BMI) is used in Western Medicine.
Anxiety can show up in our lives in so many ways. One really annoying way is that when we feel anxious, we usually want to avoid the thing that’s causing us anxiety. While this might make sense instinctively in the short-term, the end result is when we actually have to face the stressor, it becomes so much bigger and scarier.
You might have seen on my page that I approach my work as a therapist through a Health At Every Size® (HAES)-informed lens. You might have wondered, “what does that mean?” or maybe that’s part of why you landed on my page to begin with.
We’ve all been there. That place teetering on the edge of telling ourselves “all relationships go through hard times” and truly questioning if the relationship has any chance of surviving.