The term “red flag” has become somewhat of a buzzword these days. How many times has a friend told you that something the person you’re dating has done is a “red flag?” While there are certainly real concerns that warrant such a description, without proper discernment, people can start to become overly reactive to otherwise normal concerns in the course of a relationship. So that leads us to the question, what actually is a relationship red flag?
It can be difficult to show up in a healthy, positive way in relationships when you’ve had primarily negative relational experiences. As I often talk about, our experiences (fortunately or unfortunately) shape us. A pattern that comes up often in my work as a therapist is codependency. Maybe you’ve heard of this concept, maybe not. Either way, we’re getting into it!