Whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can feel loaded. If you’re in a relationship, Valentine’s Day can come with some high expectations of romance and wanting to feel special. If you’re single, it can kick up some feelings of loneliness or longing. Whatever your relationship status is, know that your feelings about Valentine’s Day are valid.
It can be difficult to show up in a healthy, positive way in relationships when you’ve had primarily negative relational experiences. As I often talk about, our experiences (fortunately or unfortunately) shape us. A pattern that comes up often in my work as a therapist is codependency. Maybe you’ve heard of this concept, maybe not. Either way, we’re getting into it!